Domestic Violence is a learned pattern of ‘power and control’ and the abuses and anyone or anything can be used to exert power and control over an intimate partner.
1 in 3 women and 1 in 300 men are victims of domestic violence/intimate partner violence. Children are often used to have control over the victim.
Learned behavior is passed on from one generation to another unless new techniques or skills are taught, this pattern is the generational legacy victims and offenders leave their children.
What Is Abuse?
Domestic violence is a deliberate pattern of assaultive and coercive behaviors that include:
- Verbal, Emotional
- Denial of rights
- Threats & Intimidation and Isolation
- Physical attacks
- Sexual assault
Commonly mislabeled/misinterpreted, Domestic violence is not:
- A relationship issue
- An anger management issue
- A stress management issue
- Or a dysfunctional family issue
Why Is It Hard to Leave?
A survivor of domestic violence and sexual assault is often afraid, embarrassed or ashamed to ask for help, or doesn’t know who to trust. If you or someone you know needs assistance, contact A Community for Peace. We know it’s hard to tell someone that you have been sexually assaulted or to break free of an abusive relationship. We provide options, resources, and referrals for survivors, and empower you to set goals and make the changes you want for your life.
Victims of domestic violence experience an array of emotions and feelings from the abuse inflicted upon them by their abuser, both within and following the relationship. They may also resort to extremes in an effort to cope with the abuse. Victims of domestic violence may:
- Want the abuse to end, but not the relationship
- Feel isolated
- Feel depressed
- Feel helpless
- Be unaware of what services are available to help them
- Be embarrassed of their situation
- Fear judgement or stigmatization if their reveal the abuse
- Deny or minimize the abuse or make excuses for the abuser
- Still love their abuser
- Withdraw emotionally
- Distance themselves from family or friends
- Be impulsive or aggressive
- Feel financially dependent on their abuser
- Feel guilt related to the relationship
- Feel shame
- Have anxiety
- Have suicidal thoughts
- Abuse alcohol or drugs
- Be hopeful that their abuser will change and/or stop the abuse
- Have religious, cultural, or other beliefs that reinforce staying in the relationship
- Have no support from friends of family
- Fear cultural, community, or societal backlash that may hinder escape or support
- Feel like they have nowhere to go or no ability to get away
- Fear they will not be able to support themselves after they escape the abuser
- Have children in common with their abuser and fear for their safety if the victim leaves
- Have pets or other animals they don’t want to leave
- Be distrustful of local law enforcement, courts, or other systems if the abuse is revealed
- Have had unsupportive experiences with friends, family, employers, law enforcement, courts, child protective services, etc. and believe they won’t get help if they leave or fear retribution if they do (e.g. they fear losing custody of their children to the abuser)
- Victims of domestic violence lose a total of 8 million days of paid work each year.
- The cost of domestic violence exceeds $8.3 billion annually.
- Between 21-60% of victims of domestic violence lose their jobs due to reasons stemming
from the abuse.
- Between 2003 and 2008, 142 women were murdered in their workplace by former or current intimate partners. This amounts to 22% of workplace homicides among women.
A Community For Peace provides the following services free of charge.
- 24-Hour Crisis Hotline – 916.728.7210
- Business Center & victim assistance (10-4 pm/walk-in)
- ER Shelter – Harmony House© (women and their children)
- Emergency food and clothing
- Emergency response to calls from law enforcement
- Housing Advocacy
- Law Enforcement Response (DVRT First Response, DVRT ONCALL, CEDV)
- Peer Group Support
- Court and social services advocacy
- Legal assistance, TRO and custody disputes
- Community Outreach and Collaborative
- Relocation Assistance and Housing Assistance
- Hospital ER room protocol and assistances
- ER transportation
- Children/Youth Services
- Individual Counseling for Women and Men